Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Honor Your Loved One by Using a Certified Funeral Celebrant

Planning a funeral is a difficult task for the family of a loved one that has passed away. It is a delicate balance of mourning a loss and celebrating a life. Choosing the right funeral celebrant is a critical part of this process.  If you are not an active member of a church or synagogue, it may be difficult to find a pastor or other clergy member.  Or, you may not be comfortable with a service that represents one faith, while family members come from very different faith backgrounds. When this happens, some people look to the services of a funeral celebrant. When determining if a Certified Funeral Celebrant is the right choice for you and your loved one’s memorial service, here are a few benefits to consider:

1. Personal Service – The main goal of a funeral celebrant is to create a unique and personalized service for your loved one. They will meet with family members to learn the character traits of the deceased and the stories that bring them to mind.  They can also be a valuable resource in choosing just the right readings, music, mementos and other personal touches to enhance the service. A celebrant is there to create a service as special as the person you are memorializing.

2. Support – The decisions that go along with funeral planning can be very overwhelming. And, because the emotion of losing a loved one adds an extra layer of complexity, a celebrant can provide much needed emotional support to family members. Their specialized training gives them the skills needed to help with both the organizational duties as well as serving as an officiant. Additionally, they are trained to provide much needed moral support to grieving family members.

3. Serves all individuals – Because a celebrant does not represent a particular faith background, their personal beliefs do not play a part in their work. Their goal is not to preach a certain religious doctrine, but to help families honor the deceased in a way that gives them peace and reflects the wishes of their loved one.
At White Haven Memorial Park, our on-staff Certified Funeral  Celebrants are here to help you plan a memorial service that encompasses all the uniquely wonderful things about your loved one. We are the only cemetery in the Rochester, New York area that has Certified Funeral Celebrants on staff. Contact us today at 585-586-5250 to learn more about this unique service.

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

When is a church not a church?

With the rising popularity of cremation and the relative ease with which cremated remains can be stored almost anywhere, more and more churches are offering congregants the opportunity to be buried right where they worship.  Other organizations, such as colleges and sports teams have followed suit as well.
If you are not concerned with the permanence of the arrangement, this type of burial might be a fine way to show support for your church or your team.  If you’d like a burial place that will be there for future generations of your family, however, you might want to think again.
The surprising truth is that large numbers of churches are being abandoned across the country.  Some, like the church pictured from Buffalo, NY, are simply left to deteriorate.  Others, such as the one pictured below from Ocean County, NJ, are turned into a business, such as a liquor store, restaurant, hotel, concert hall or antique store.

In Monroe County alone, there are currently no less than 7 churches currently for sale.  Many others have already been sold.  For example, you can clearly recognize the former purpose of the building when you dine at Maria’s Mexican Restaurant at 75 West Main St. in Webster.
So, when considering a burial location for yourself and your family you may want to consider the likely longevity of the organization providing the burial site.  Even though churches in general have been around forever, there is no guarantee that any one church will last that long.  A regulated cemetery, however, is much more likely to be around for eternity.  In New York State, if the company managing a given cemetery should fail, the local city or town in which it is located is required by law to take it over and maintain it forever.
For more reasons to consider a permanent burial spot for cremated remains of your loved ones, and even your pets, please visit our website.

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

Is Above Ground Burial Right for You?

Is Above Ground Burial Right for You?

The beauty and solitude of winter is all around us here in Pittsford, NY. While winter is known for its tranquility, it can also bring harsh and inclement weather. In the wake of these conditions, you might find yourself trudging through snow, slush and ice to visit a loved one’s grave, or attend a memorial celebration service. 

At White Haven Memorial Park, we offer a variety of burial options for families to consider. From beautiful outdoor sites in a meadow or by a shady tree, to an indoor mausoleum or columbarium with options for caskets, urns or one casket plus one urn.  Here are some benefits to choosing an above ground burial location in one of our indoor settings.

  • Above Ground Burial
    Weather proof – Summer can bring hot and humid conditions and torrential rains. Winter’s cold, snow and ice can make it difficult to visit your loved one’s grave or attend a memorial service.
  • Timeless elegance – Our well-appointed mausoleum and columbarium buildings are constructed and maintained to stand the test of time.
  • Comfort – Visit your loved one’s grave site while sitting in a comfortable upholstered chair, next to a cozy fireplace in a climate controlled setting.
  • Cost-effective – Traditional in-ground burials require the purchase of a burial plot, a burial vault and a grave marker. An above ground burial has one package price that eliminates many of the extra expenses of a traditional burial.
  • Lock-in pricing – Prices for above ground burial can be locked in to current costs. If needed, budget plans with interest-free payments can be developed to spread costs over several years, making it more affordable.
  • Eco-friendly – Choosing burial in a mausoleum or columbarium conserves land.  
  • Special touches – Each of our buildings is decorated with floral displays. Remember your loved one on a special day such as a birthday or anniversary by dedicating the arrangement in their honor.  We also provide visitor’s registers in every building so you can write a note to your loved one when you come to visit.

At White Haven Memorial Park, our goal is to provide you with a variety of options so that you and your loved ones feel celebrated at the end of life. We are here to help you create a burial plan and memorial service that will honor your last wishes. If you have any questions about the wide variety of burial options available or would like to come visit our grounds, please contact us today.  

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Healing and the Holidays

The holidays are often filled with treasured memories of our loved ones. The traditions shared and the times of being all together are cherished deep within the heart and remembered across the passage of time. In the midst of the joy surrounding the holidays, as well as our memories, this time of year can also bring up feelings of loss and sadness for those mourning a loved one.

Healing and the holidays

Accepting Our Feelings
The holidays are an emotional time, and each person experiences the stress and mix of feelings differently. Dealing with loss is especially challenging around the holidays, and it is normal to feel overwhelmed. Taking time to acknowledge your feelings, as well as being open with those around you, gives you space during a hectic time for healing. Being kind to yourself and those around you, as you each mourn and remember in your own way, is important year-round, but even more so around the holiday season.
Honoring Old Traditions and Making New Ones
For some, carrying on old traditions provides a sense of comfort and continuity, while for others, acknowledging that things won’t be the same opens up space for new traditions. There is no right answer other than the one that feels right for you and your family. Sometimes the best way to honor a departed loved one isn’t to carry on exactly as before, but to find meaning in a new tradition. Lighting a candle in his or her memory, visiting their resting place, or giving back to an organization they cared about are just a few ideas.
Reaching out for Support   
At White Haven, we hope the serenity and healing atmosphere of our grounds will help you this holiday season by offering a connection, as well as a peaceful place, for reflection and remembrance. We offer printed resources, as well as the opportunity to discuss more ideas for honoring your loved one. For more information, please call (585)-586-5250.  

White Haven Memorial Park is a unique green sanctuary in Rochester, New York that honors our departed loved ones. Memory and beauty flow hand-in-hand with nature in this one-of-a-kind setting. The healing power of nature’s serenity, we believe, comforts those who choose White Haven. With burial options for anyone, we are a certified Audubon Cooperative Sanctuary. For more information, please visit our site, or contact us here.  

Monday, November 14, 2016

Healing and The Holidays at White Haven Memorial Park

Many of our best memories in life are spending time with family and friends during the holidays.  While we look forward to another holiday season full of joy and celebration, we also miss loved ones we have lost and want to take time to remember them.
We understand that this time of year can be especially hard if you have experienced a loss, and we want to support you in your healing and the honoring of your friend or family member.    Our staff at White Haven Memorial Park is here to offer our comfort and invite you to share your memories with us.  Connecting with others through stories about your loved one is an instrumental component to the healing process.
Healing and the Holidays
White Haven Memorial Park also provides you with free printed resources to address your specific needs while grieving.  Every individual’s grieving process is different, so it is vital to equip yourself with the resources most suited to your situation.  We welcome you to come by and select some reading material that will be most beneficial to your healing.  
The holiday season is a good time to establish new traditions to honor your loved one.  We suggest visiting the cemetery and burial site to spend some time in reflection and remembrance.  It is helpful to demonstrate that your loved one has not been forgotten, and many people find the cemetery offers a quiet sense of peace while mourning that is difficult to obtain elsewhere.  
Honoring the life of the deceased through loving thoughts and actions helps you along your journey after loss because it affirms the relationship you cherished.  Some special ways you can honor your loved one during the holidays at White Haven Memorial Park include; placing a wreath on the grave, dedicating holiday flower arrangements in the mausoleum, or ordering a holiday arrangement for the vase on the niche or crypt.  Please feel free to contact us for assistance or other suggestions at (585)-586-5250.  
We also encourage you to find healing in your celebration of the unique life of your loved one and the incredible memories you made together.  You are invited to our Holiday Remembrance Service on Saturday, December 3rd at 4:00 p.m. in the All Seasons Chapel, featuring music, poetry and names and photos of the loved ones that have been given to us in advance.
For further information on any of these healing opportunities, please visit our website at or call us at (585)-586-5250.

Monday, October 24, 2016

Saying Goodbye To Your Pet

Thanks to their amazing ability to give us totally unconditional love, many of us develop very special relationships with our pets. It is no surprise, then, that after losing a pet we sometimes face the same symptoms of grief we face in the loss of a human family member. The decision on what to do with the remains of a pet can help with this grieving process, just as it does with our human losses. Thanks to some recent legislation in New York State, there will soon be some new options to help you say goodbye to your beloved pet.

A new law just signed by Gov. Cuomo will give White Haven Memorial Park  permission to bury the cremated remains of pets with their human family members.  It will take a few months to work out all of the details and have our products and procedures approved by our regulators, but you can now rest assured that White Haven Memorial Park will soon be able to bury your pets’ cremated remains with you in a variety of burial options, both in ground and above ground.  If you would like to be notified as soon as these options become available, please call our office at 585-586-5250 and ask to have your name place on our Pet Burial List.

Saying Goodbye to your PetIn addition to our pet-friendly burial cremation options, White Haven also participates in a number of other pet inspired activities. Take a look:

Blessing of the Pets
On October 2nd, White Haven hosted our second annual Blessing of the Pets ceremony outside of the All Seasons Chapel. Reverend Nanci DeLeo provided individual blessings for a variety of pets including dogs, cats, hamsters, birds and fish. Guests and their pets were welcome to explore our hiking trails before and after the blessing. Please plan now to join us next year!

Pet Memorial Area
White Haven Memorial Park has a pet memorial area with a bridge crossing a “stream” of rocks. Individual rocks may be engraved with your pet’s name for a tax deductible donation to our Memorial Gift Fund. Additionally, our pet-friendly hiking trails are the perfect fall spot for people to take a walk with their four-legged friends and enjoy the changing leaves.
Pet Memorial

Serving the Rochester, New York area since 1929, White Haven Memorial Park offers a wide selection of burial options. We are delighted to now include the burial of cremated pets among those options. There is no better way to celebrate the life of your pets than with a permanent memorial in our Park, with its beautiful and Audubon certified forest and grounds. Visit our website or call 585-586-5250 for more information.  

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

White Haven Rocks!

No, not like in rock ‘n roll.  REAL rocks!
About twelve years ago we got the idea to offer people a burial place that rivaled the kind of place they might go to scatter a loved one’s cremated remains.  Places like the Adirondack Mountains where they used to go camping, or wooded areas around the Finger Lakes where they used to go hiking, fishing or swimming.  Many people told us they would rather remember their loved ones in places where they made so many happy memories together.
The problem with that idea is that those places can be hard to get to on a regular basis; the ownership of the land and accessibility to the location may change over time; and not everyone who wants to remember the person can remember exactly where the person’s remains are located.  So, we created the Nature Trail for Cremation Burials in a beautiful forest located within White Haven Memorial Park. 
white haven rocks
We chose natural rocks to mark the gravesites so that the grave markers would blend right in with the natural surroundings.  Now, people could enjoy a walk in the woods right close to home and they could remember their loved one in a setting that felt more like a weekend getaway place than a suburban cemetery.  And their loved one’s memorial was there for all to see in the form of a unique, natural rock with a small, bronze plaque.
So many people liked this concept that the Nature Trail soon became our most popular burial option.  Not everyone intended to be cremated, however, and there was no room for caskets to be buried along the Nature Trail.  So we created another new burial option called Rock Lawn.  This option offers lawn burial for caskets as well as cremated remains and also offers the option to mark the grave with a natural rock and a small bronze plaque.  Now, whether people want to be cremated or not, they can choose a burial spot at either of our cemeteries that is marked by a one-of-a-kind natural rock.
Now our only challenge is to keep enough rocks on hand!  To do this, we work with several different suppliers who are all looking for a nice selection of rocks for us in the sizes and colors we need.  Once one vendor’s supply is exhausted, we call the next one! When the rocks arrive at White Haven, we sort them by size and then carve out a space on each rock where the bronze plaque will be located.  Then the rocks are ready to go on display where people can pick their very own special rock to mark their future gravesite.
Now when we say “White Haven Rocks” you know just what we mean!